The Great Law of Attraction Hoax

Nov 9, 2011 by Wendy

Last week at the end of his first session, my client asked me this question:

“What do you think about the concept of the Law of Attraction?”

Never one to miss an opportunity to answer a question with my own, I asked

“What do YOU think about The Law of Attraction?”

“Well, he said “I don’t know if I really believe it. Come on, how can you just think about something and then have it happen? I thought about a new SUV yesterday and when I woke up, it wasn’t sitting in my driveway.”

For a moment I wondered what he really wanted to know. Did he truly want my opinion? Usually my clients ask me questions because they want to find out if we are in agreement.

I asked him if he wanted the long or the short answer. He said he had a few minutes before he had to get back to work, but was curious about my take on the subject.

“The long answer is that if the Law of Attraction is about only wishing for what you want, then I think it’s a big hoax. You thought about the car, and if wishing was all that you needed, then you would have seen the car in your driveway, wouldn’t you?

I do know that when you change your thoughts and focus on what you want, things begin to change. Your attitude will change. Your behavior will change. You will notice more opportunities and more possibilities. Your actions will change. 

As a result, you move in the direction of what you want in your life.”

The short answer is, that when you change your thoughts, then anything is possible.”

As he stood up and put his jacket on he smiled and said,

“I like the idea that I can change my thoughts and affect my life.”

If someone tells you that all you need to do is to wish and you’ll attract what you want, then turn the other way. The truth is that only when you take responsibility for your thoughts and learn to shift your focus, your life will change.

Because when your thoughts change, your beliefs, attitudes, behaviors, and ultimately your actions will change.

You can wish all you want, but if there is no action, well, you’ll just be stuck in wishing mode.

A powerful way to change your thoughts is to learn EFT, the Emotional Freedom Technique. On Nov. 12  learn how to use EFT for reducing pain, releasing negative thoughts, and reducing stress and anxiety. Watch this fascinating video now. Click HERE

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The Mischievous Monkey in Your Mind

Oct 2, 2011 by Wendy

I have a great imagination and most of the time I use it to my advantage.

Sometimes though, my creative mind takes advantage of me.

If you’ve been reading my blog, you know that I am a proponent of being aware of our
thoughts. When we are aware of our thoughts can we then use our abilities to shift and change them to our advantage.

I teach my clients (and frankly, anyone who stands still long enough to listen to me) how important it is to do this.

THE MISCHIEVOUS MONKEY IN YOUR MIND

When I least expect it, a negative image or thought flashes in my mind. Sometimes it’s a scary thought – an image of one of my children getting hurt – especially if they are flying. Other times it’s a negative thought perhaps one about not having enough money.

By-the-way, if any of these thoughts were motivating and caused me to take action to change my life, that would be OK with me. Unfortunately these kinds of thoughts only serve to make me feel worried, bad, frightened, and downright anxious.

Was I responsible for these thoughts and images? I certainly don’t WANT to take responsibility. Why would I think this way? How would these negative thoughts benefit me?

Whenever these thoughts and images occur, I remember that I have a little mischievous monkey in my mind. Now, this little monkey is usually quiet, but always alert. When he sees a moment of quiet in my mind, he seizes the opportunity to grab a negative thought, worry, or fear out of his basket and toss it quickly into my mind.

This is the game this silly monkey plays. This little monkey loves doing this. His goal is to do it every second, minute, day, every week, every year, and even every decade.

When I was younger I allowed this mischievous monkey to play and toss negative garbage into my mind most of the time. The result of having a mind filled with so much negativity was that I was quite unhappy – honestly downright miserable most of the time.

I’m much smarter now. Here’s my new game:

1. When this little monkey tosses out a negative thought I immediately take action by eliminating, releasing, deflecting, or even destroying the thought.
2. When the thought is gone, I quickly ask myself “How do I want to feel about this situation?”
3. I then take the answer and use it to replace the negative thought my monkey had thrown out to me.

I’ve gotten good at my part. It takes a millisecond at the most.

I’m playing a different game now and I’m a lot happier.

And my monkey? Well, he’s got his game to play and will never give up.

 
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Positive Thinking on Purpose

Feb 18, 2011 by Wendy

My 82 year old father has been ill recently. I took him to HUP (Hospital at the University of PA) last week because his energy level was so low that he could barely stay awake.

6 months ago, my dad was playing tennis 5 days a week, so I’m now finding myself more worried about him.

My dad is one of those people who is always ahead of the pack. Back in the 70′s he was one of the first to get on the bandwagon of eating healthy. When 100% whole wheat flour became widely available, he happily substituted it for white flour in everything he cooked.

I remember one particular memorable Sunday breakfast. He was making his usual creamed chip beef on toast recipe for us for breakfast. It was our favorite. But now, with his newfound desire for total health, he made it with whole wheat flour and fat free milk. No cream, no butter, no white flour. He served it on 100% whole wheat bread. We thought it was disgusting. He loved it.

So now he’s going for a procedure at the hospital next week. He has congestive heart failure. The fluid in the back of his heart needs to be released so his heart will work normally again.

In the past few weeks I’ve been keenly aware of my thoughts. When I first brought him to the hospital I made myself stay calm and relaxed throughout the process. Not easy in a big city hospital. Every time I noticed a negative thought in my mind I “released it into the atmosphere” till it disappeared. Then I consciously replaced it with “I am calm and relaxed”.

I knew my dad was frightened at a very deep level and his way to deal with life is to take control. When someone is in control (or thinks he is) fears that he is not in control, he tends to do what he knows best. Try to control what he can. I was right in his line of target; the perfect person to bark at. Um..I mean try to control.

So every time my dad directed me to do something (he can be a challenging person to be with), I took a deep breath and reminded myself to respond calmly. Rather than be angry or upset at his orders, I found myself  thinking “Thank goodness for Louisa (his wife). It’s wonderful that she loves and takes such good care of him.” (Translated: I now know how hard it is to take care of him when he needs it lol!)

I spent the better part of that day helping him while being acutely aware of my thoughts and how they affected my feelings. I took every opportunity I noticed to change those thoughts that were causing me to feel bad.

Positive thinking kept me in that space so that I could be with him 100% that day.

Now that he will be going back to HUP for his procedure on Tuesday, I’m finding that I have to be aware of my thoughts even more.

Now, when I feel worried, I imagine sending him love and healing.

Now, when I think of all the statistics about death and infections in hospitals, I choose to remember that these are just numbers.

Now, when I think of how weak my dad is, I focus on the fact that he is extremely proactive and wants to improve.

And of course, I’m now imagining him coming home quickly and getting back to his normal self in a few weeks.

Creating positive thoughts on purpose helps me to get through the day noticing the possibilities, rather than thinking about the worse that will happen.

While my thoughts may or may not make a difference in his life, I like the idea that perhaps our thoughts have energy and I’m sending him healing loving energy every day.

Do you think that our thoughts have energy?

What have you done in situations like this? How did your thoughts make a difference?

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