If You Don’t Ask, The Starship Enterprise Will Pass You By

Nov 21, 2011 by Wendy

I used to avoid going places. When I was younger and single, I was usually nervous and fearful and avoided going to singles events by myself. If I went, I made sure that I always had a girlfriend with me.

There were many activities that I missed because of my fears. Every once in a while though I would go someplace by myself and have a blast. For example I went white water rafting with 20 other singles and enjoyed myself immensely.

But even though I had an exhilarating day, my old worries soon popped up again and prevented me from going to the next activity.

I missed out on a lot of activities back then.

Years ago the local paper had an ad for the upcoming Annual Star Trek Convention in Cherry Hill, NJ. I had always enjoyed The Next Generation and Voyager – I loved that the Enterprise finally had a female Captain! – and kept thinking about how much fun it would be to attend the Convention.

I didn’t want to go alone because I thought it wouldn’t be much fun by myself. I asked my children. They said no. (They were teens at the time and didn’t want to be seen with their mother.)

The thought crossed my mind that I could invite a friend, but was quickly rejected. I was concerned that my friend would think I was a nerd and closet Trekkie.

So I decided not to ask and not to attend the Convention.

A few weeks later I mentioned the Star Trek Convention in passing to one of my friends.

To my surprise this very conservative friend replied“Oh! I wish I had known. I’ve always wanted to go to a Star Trek Convention!”

Was I ever shocked. I could have asked her and she would have come with me. Shock, surprise, and a bit of sadness flashed through me.

In that brief moment I made the decision that I will no longer avoid doing something because of my inner judgements, fears, and worries. Going by myself needed to be OK.

I learned that my friends think I’m a bit odd and they like me anyway.

I learned not to make assumptions.

I learned that people like to be invited – not matter what the occasion.

Every week I now invite people. I invite people to read my blogs. I invite people to my workshops. I invite people to learn about their thoughts and how to change them.

Last week I invited two women to join me at the Historical Society of PA to taste food and learn about a newly published civil war cookbook.

My life is so much more satisfying now that I no longer worry about what others may think of me.

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